You know in some European cultures, it is widely acceptable for a man to have a mistress on the side, what one does in his private life is one’s own cup of tea as long as one keeps his business to himself. In some African cultures it is widely acceptable, and I am not talking about polygamy here. A man may have maybe one or two wives, a stable mistress who is ‘dismissible’ by the way, and girlfriends. It’s Solomon and his 700 wives and 300 concubines (mistresses) all over again!
But what would really make a single women settle to be a mistress for she knows for sure, these guys will never leave their homes for them right? Well at least the wise ones will never do! As one motivational speaker will put it, they just don’t want to do the hard work of shaping a man into the future that they want. Some other sensible chic should spend their hours making a stable home on their behalf. They’ll just have the spoils- thank you very much, they say! Never mind the consequences!
In my life I’ve come across just two women who fall into this camp – one felt weak at the whole arrangement; more than 20 years on, the man is still with his family and she is still a mistress (not even a second wife in a culture where polygamy is acceptable). The other, appeared to have enjoyed the whole bizarre experience. She narrates her devious encounter with bravado and excitement with no sense of remorse! Her final prize she says is that she got the man to leave his home and wife for her but she didn’t want him as a stable companion anyways! The wife got millions in settlement and confused children. The man, millions less richer, lost his business, his children, and without the girl! The girl, a few Hermes bags, jewellery and no real assets!
The ratio of men to women in some cities and towns may be higher at what, 4:1? So should single women resort to being mistresses? A debatable question to which we say no to In this very age and time where women move mountains why should any woman be rated second best in the hierarchy of relationships? Your either the queen bee for him or you find a nest where you become the queen bee. The search maybe tedious but you know currently single women (not forever single) aspiring to find their guys should find their own oasis and harness it into a blossoming ever flowing spring of joy just like some women have done! If the current patch appears dry then maybe it’s time to find a new Trevi
Vultures are not pretty and I say this with love
- A Wife or a Mistress? (socyberty.com)